Do you ever argue in a dream? Do you remember what it was about? Was there shouting or was it a calm debate? Who won? Was it a stalemate? Why?

    Arguments in a dream most often represent a struggle with deep unexpressed and likely unacknowledged feelings you're experiencing at the subconscious level at the time. An argument can also be showing you that the present you is actively trying to hold back new attitudes and behavior, ways of seeing and thinking - keeping change at bay by the logic and safety of the current way of doing things. How you feel about the argument when you wake up will help you decide whether that's a good or bad thing.

        Because arguments can also represent the new you trying to convince the older version of what it has to offer. And of course they can represent unexpressed and unrecognized frustrations, emotions, fears at the same time.

    Keep in mind that dreams are a safe place to release strong feelings while harming no one, including you. So any dream arguments can be a very effective way to work out conflicts in your feelings by literally talking things over with yourself. And if you're a practiced lucid dreamer, dreams are great places to dry run arguments before you actually have one.

    Who is arguing? Who has the stronger position? Who will win? Why? How will things be different when one side convinces the other? How do you feel about the argument while in the dream? How do you feel about arguments in general? How did you feel when you first woke up? What does all this remind you of going on in your life at the time? (See Session 34 DREAM EMOTIONS for more stuff.)

    See you next week. In the meantime, pay close attention to which one of you is winning.

[Excerpted in part from Letters From Home: A Guide To Symbols - Awake or Dreaming available from Amazon at
http://amazon/dp/1885975023 and at your favorite bookshop.]

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